If you are here, clearly, you are trying to find the necessary and desirable qualities of a good man. Maybe, you want to take your current relationship to the next level or end it, as he is apparently not very nice.
I really don’t want to be a ‘dreamy bubble buster,’ but finding a good man is not as easy as it sounds. However, we girls are always on a treasure hunt to find the man of our dreams. (I am no different!)
Also, I do get your “gallop-through” nature if you want to seal your longtime bond with your man. But, Wait! Hold your horses, and get straight to these incredibly heartfelt qualities of man that will be a deal-breaker for you.
Having said that, I recommend you prioritize the essential attributes you want to see in your man, as it is obvious that he cannot be a package of all qualities or a “literal superhuman.” Try being a bit easy on them, girls!
But for your convenience, I have listed all the salient yet hard-to-find attributes to look out for in a man. I dearly hope you find what most girls are unable to. Bonne Chance!
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He should be smart but humorous too. Or do you like your man of dreams to be protective and honest? Well, obviously, there are so many of them, but a little bit of adjustment is needed to accept the gentleman as he is.
It’s fair on your part to keep digging into the wanted attributes in your partner, but if your aim is to mold him according to you (red flags, missy!)
Also, if you don’t agree, just for a sec, imagine yourself in his shoes; you will feel the pressure. So, let’s hop back to the qualities of a good man and get through them.
1. Dedication
A relationship is delicate as it involves two people co-existing romantically. A Mr. Nice Guy will definitely show signs of devotion towards you and this bond. Not only will he keep you and your needs above, but he will also try to bring a seamless balance between you and him.
I think this is one of the many good qualities that most girls find adorable in their man. Well! No biggie, as this is one of the foremost traits a man should possess.
2. Romantic
Uff! Who cannot say the “three golden words” to a gentleman who is extremely lovey-dovey?
As simple as it sounds, romance is not that simple, as it means different things to different people. Some may like candlelight dinners, chocolates, and movie dates, or some may absolutely adore that her “Mr. Right” is planning adventurous trips for them.
Whatever your idea of romance is, note that communicating them straight to your would-be man is important.
3. Trustful
No “good man” will ever charge you of cheating; that is baseless. He will try to keep the unreasonable jealousy out of the relationship and will always show trust in you.
If you are in a bond where you are all the time trying to prove your innocence, mark my words, you will feel the suffocation in the relationship soon. Secondly, what kind of a relationship is it where there is no trust in each other? (An apt recipe for failure!)
4. Emotional Intelligence
Girls, it is as important to look out for this attribute in a man as it is for his good looks. You can’t even dream in your wildest dreams how much it helps a relationship to prosper if a man knows how to put himself in his partner’s shoes.
An ignorant man will never care about your feelings or situations, so you may come across more disrespect and disregard than an emotionally intelligent person.
5. Validates your Emotions
This characteristic stems from emotional intelligence and is a crucial attribute of a good man in a relationship. You are right, darling! I understand what you are feeling; I am here for you; You are right in feeling this way!
If your man uses the same or similar sentences to your situations and feelings, you have literally hit the jackpot.
6. Responsibility
An accountable man is 100% responsible in his conduct with you. Neither will he ever blame you all the time, nor will he ever shirl away from his duties. Moreover, the gentleman will never be seen blame-shifting, denying, or playing a victim in every situation.
Girls, if you are currently in this type of relationship and you experience this almost on a daily basis, get out of this toxicity right away.
7. Caring
Although this particular trait should be considered normal and not as a special quality to a man, the feeling of care should come from within. Imagine your man mostly at your disposal and making sure that all is well with you. (I wish it could be ‘always’ instead of ‘mostly,’ though!)
Getting you flowers when you are in a low mood or taking you to the doctor if you get injured. (Awww, moment, right?)
8. Progressive
Marry a man if he is progressive not only in the relationship but also in his life. A growth-oriented man will always prioritize what’s really important (career and financial aspects) than just focusing on short-term fun times.
Only a well-aware and progressive man will make efforts to take his romantic relationship and life to the next level.
9. Knows How to Communicate
It’s no secret that the art of communication is really important. In our daily lives, we deal with fights, differences of opinion, quarrels, and whatnot. However, if your man likes to ignore the differences and share his thought, you are with a mature man.
Not all men are great at expressing their point of views, so communication is hard for most men. However, half of your problems are solved if you are investing in a man who likes to share what he feels.
10. Optimistic
Aren’t our lives already have enough pessimism to deal with on a daily basis? And to top it off, if we start sharing our lives with a man who is not at all optimistic, what a nightmarish life!
Girls, don’t give in to the temptation of dating a tall-dark-handsome man if he is full of negative and low thoughts. Come on! We deserve a spike of positivity in our lives and not a flair of hopelessness.
So, make your pick carefully, and if your current lover is nothing like positive, you might want to reconsider. (A girly-friendly suggestion!)
11. Sense of Humor
Who doesn’t like to laugh or chuckle a lot? Most common and good quality that a woman tries to find in her gentleman. Everyone enjoys a good natural laugh, and what better way to experience it because of your partner?
It not only makes your relationship healthy but also adds fun to your life.
12. Loyalty
How can you miss the most important quality of a good man, which is fidelity? Any relationship’s survival depends hugely on loyalty.
Nobody wants to continue being in a relationship with a cheater. (Once a cheater, always a cheater!) Women who have experienced this before and are still sticking to the bond because of all the heartfelt convincing and apologies, I can just say, “What are you doing?”
If disloyalty crops up in a partnership, there are very minimal chances of its survivorship. Don’t get heartbroken, and make a quick exit from all the pain and agony coming your way. (Believe me, you deserve the best)
13. Passionate
I know how to demarcate a platonic relationship and one with love and attraction. If you think this attribute is not that important to have a healthy union, you are really wrong, dearie!
If you think you will be able to pursue a man without a tinge of passion, it will only get bland and dull. Also, it will start affecting other aspects of your relationship, and you will be left clueless, only thinking, “what is wrong?”
14. Selfless
If you received the help and then were taunted about the same, was it really a selfless action? No, right? This particular attribute should be an innate part of a person’s personality rather than a voiced improvisation.
On some occasions, if your man selfishly thinks about himself, it’s not that big of a deal. (He has a life of his own too) However, if he almost always shows a self-centric and egoistic behavioral pattern, you are in a deep hole of ignorance.
15. Respectful
At no cost in any relationship, you must tolerate an abusive or disrespectful man. A “Good Man” will never lose his cool and unreasonably try to pull you down with his derogatory language.
If you want a striving and thriving relationship with your loved one, accept absolutely no nuisance to set an acceptable benchmark in your bond.
Besides these 15 essential qualities of a “Good Man” in a relationship, there are many others that come under the category of desirable attributes.
Compassion, balanced mental health, kindness, commitment, friendliness, fun-loving, charismatic, engaging, generous, and many more are examples of amazing attributes in not just men but in women too.
Should you Force your Idea of a “Mr. Nice Guy” on your Man?
Well, if you ask me personally, I would say it’s great to express your expectations from each other in your relationship. However, the force or pressure of it can lead to the derailing of your love train.
Imagine how you would feel if you were all the time told to change and become something that you are not. Uff, Tooooooo much! So, don’t impose your ideal vision on your partner and strangle him. After all, I am sure you want to better your bond rather than totally knock it down.
The Bottom Line
Finally, you have everything from recommendations to the entire list of qualities of a good man in a relationship. So my friend, take note of these attributes and make a careful decision about your life.
So, next time you have an altercation with your boyfriend or husband, instead of correcting them on the same things, introspect whether it is ever going to be better.
Because spending your precious life with a person who is not a “Good Man” is something you must think twice about.
And how can I forget about the women who are just starting to walk on a love path, be careful and check for all the right signals or qualities before saying “YES.” If you found this blog insightful, leave a comment down below.
